You deserve this

I know, I know. You’re avoiding sweets. But what if you could replace this image with something you truly deserved that would make you happy for much longer than a donut? What would it be?

I work with clients every day that don’t have what they want because part of them doesn’t feel like they deserve to have nice things, a comfortable life, or a supportive partner.

I’m not a therapist, but I do know that history plays a large role in the thoughts we think and the choices we make. Somewhere in our youth, we heard or experienced things that stayed with us and just became a habit in our positive, or negative, thinking.

I had a client awhile back that grew up with parents that would constantly tell her “we can’t afford that” so she grew up believing that there isn’t enough money to buy anything that she wants beyond the basic necessities, and when she did buy something nice, she experienced guilt and fear that she spent money she shouldn’t have. So we got to work changing the pattern.

Do you notice this? Part of you is tapping the other part of you on the shoulder and saying ” don’t buy that, you don’t need it.” Listen and take a personal assessment. Is the truth that you don’t need it, you can’t afford it, or is it that you feel you don’t deserve it?

I’m not suggesting that you use retail therapy as a connector to deserving. But notice where your thoughts are taking you. A retail therapy purchase is just like that donut. It’s a momentary “high” that will flee the day after you buy it and bring it home.

Stick with the facts

You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be healthy. You deserve caring friends. You deserve to eat good food and relax. You deserve to live a comfortable life.

Say all of this to yourself without feeling a sense of lack or jealousy of others. That will turn your statements into a boomerang and you’ll get hit in the face with your own words which will bring you the opposite of what you want! Instead, say or think these words with a true sense of love and kindness to yourself. And take note of your feelings.

Live responsibly and to your highest potential. Learn from the past, plan for the future and live in the present. You deserve to have a good life because you are alive.